Anger, if properly managed and used to your advantage, achieving positive results. But destructive, unmanageable anger has caused deep misery and sleepless nights countless families. Visit any prison cell, court or hospital and see the victims of rabies.
In my clinic, I saw the almost rabid daily. And it's ugly. The scars of the face and body strain served as a constant reminder of the violence. Even in her sleep, anger emerges in nightmares.
Because of unfettered emotions, families have suffered mental and physical health declined, and peace of mind is gone.
What are some ways to control destructive anger?
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Its Action Plan
Like going to a war zone or looking for a job is needs a solid plan. Establish the basic steps and practical strategies to cope with anger provoking situations before they erupt. So when circumstances Testy happens in real life, you're ready.
A What is your project? Plan B? Plan C?
For example, if you think your Women Nag only because he left home at 12 at night (when in reality you are finished working on 4 hours!), Your plan may include a call to his wife before coming home and explain the reason for further delay take home a bouquet of roses to the surprise of the mouse or chocolate cake. His plan B includes listening attentively and persistent patience of his wife. Even if it hurts, that deserves heard and be allowed to express their speculations. . . and rage.
Know your triggers
Anticipating the possible causes tantrums, both internal and external. Do not swallow easily when you're hungry? Are you irritable early in the morning? Do you know when you do not have enough sleep or are in pain?
As for external triggers, which is in the environment that makes you mad? Is it safe to sneeze or your partner is snoring in the morning not wanting to wake? R is the demanding boss, curious, and arrogant behavior?
Do you mind if a TV show reminds you of past hurts and betrayal?
Pause before you say or act
Pause before responding to triggers. Learning from one to ten. If still 're angry, count to 100 or 200. Also, take a deep breath. Release your anger and try to cool down before responding to avoid hurtful words and actions devastating you regret later.Â
If you have or deep breathing does not help, stay away from the source of anger. Running into the room. And while she was alone, to relieve anger, crying, deep breathing, or punching a pillow. If you prefer to use the bathroom apartment, take a quick shower or simply stay there until you feel better.
In addition, you can divert your attention to a 30 minute walk or use the stationary bike. The possibilities are endless.
Assert yourself
Being passive does not solve no problem. And, to be aggressive, however, complicates life. The only reasonable solution is affirmed.
When anger becomes unwieldy promptly resolve problems boil. Talk to the person who angered the competent person responsible for the actions required. And focus on issues and not personalities. Before you say something, make an alliance. Be nice. Let the person feel important. By listening actively, demonstrate that it is ready to know that you care.
Tell the person you know with other issues and how these questions make you feel. And then the state changes you want do.
In conclusion, poor anger management, destructive spells Doom, while management brings success. You have a choice.
About the Author:
Copyright © 2007. Dr. Michael G. Rayel – author (A 31-Day Series and First Aid to Mental Illness) psychiatrist, and inventor of emotional and social skills games — The Oikos Game Series and The CEO. Since 2005, he has published Oikos’ Insights! http://www.oikosinsights.com as an online resource for personal development. For more information, visit http://www.oikosglobal.com
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